It’s that time of year – if you turn on your TV for very long, you are going to see a game of basketball. Dreams come true for some college seniors on the Cinderella team, and dreams are crushed for players who were confident they would go all the way to the championship. Their responses to winning or losing are largely determined by how they were parented.
It’s powerful to know that as a parent, I am responsible for equipping my child with the coping skills he will need throughout all of life … and I must begin early. There will be victories, and there will be losses. There will even be stretches of time when life is simple and mundane. The way I treat my child from the moment he is placed in my arms determines how well he adjusts to everything life slings his way.
If I respond to his cues in a timely manner when he is an infant, I teach him that he matters and that his feelings are important to me. He learns to trust or mistrust in infancy. If I bond with him and he bonds with me, he has the confidence for all other relationships. If I treat him with respect and expect respect from him, he will know how to handle himself when he’s in the spotlight.
Parenting matters. The goal of parenting is to equip your child with the skills he will need to build a great life. Sigmund Freud said, “The relationship between the mother and child is the prototype for all future relationships.”
A few of the talented players we are watching will probably go pro, and we hope that they are equipped with the skills they need to be successful. My nephew posted a quote today that I love: “Some people are so poor that all they have is money.” Our responsibility as parents is to ensure that our children have abundance in all areas of life. We want them to know how to give and how to receive love, kindness, peace, and tolerance.
March Madness will end, and life will go back to normal for every player and viewer. Make sure that you are preparing your player or viewer for whatever life might bring his way in a few years. There will be seasons of “madness” in all of our lives. How well your child handles these times will be determined by how you have equipped him.
Parenting matters. Be the best parent/caregiver you can be. You make a difference for a lifetime.
Written by Donna McClintock, COO with Children’s Choice Learning Center, Inc.